Category Archives: Yule

Brightest and Best

Some folks open their advent calendar windows in the morning, but we are more of a nighttime household; we like to hold the open window up to a light source in the darkness in order to illuminate the scene within. And tonight, in these wee small hours of Christmas Eve becoming Christmas Day, now that all the company has left, my mom and dad, my sister, my nephews, their wives and their kids… it is again just Seth and me and Haden the cat, here next to me atop a basket beside the Christmas tree. We opened tonight’s advent calendar window––the last of them, now that Christmas is here. The scene is lovely, as is the night.

This time each Christmas Eve, these moments when most of the folks around me are tucked into bed, are each year some of my favorite. Wishes abound this time of year for peace and for joy… and these are the moments when they seem most tangible. It is quiet and the darkness is, as Dylan Thomas wrote, close and holy. The lights we use to illuminate the midwinter night pierce the darkness with warmth. It may have been a month or more of madness leading up to this moment, but now that Christmas is here, there is not much left to do but enjoy its presence.

The nights now are their darkest but our hearts are open and our celebrations all focus on bringing light to that darkness. Christmas, Hanukkah, Yule, Kwanzaa, all involve candles, all call down the light, all invite us to be a light ourselves, a light in the darkness. And this I wish for you: that you be a light, that you encourage that light in others. Pure and simple.

If I have it in me, and I think I do, I’ll be writing again this year about each of the Twelve Days of Christmas. Just as there is more than one way of reckoning time, there is, as well, more than one way of reckoning these Twelve Days. We subscribe to the notion that Christmas is a season outside ordinary time beginning with Christmas Eve, blossoming into Christmas Day, which then moves into the Twelve Days of Christmas, half of which are in the old year, half in the new. Christmas is just beginning. Sit a spell with us, here in this close and holy darkness, and enjoy it. Merry Christmas.

 

Darkest Night

And once again the solstice is upon us: winter solstice in the Northern Hemisphere, summer solstice in the Southern Hemisphere. We here in Lake Worth are in the Northern, where the nights have been growing longer and longer since our summer solstice in June. Each day a bit more daylight has been shaved off our allotment, and sent to the opposite hemisphere. The great mechanical balance of this, all its immensity: so beautiful, so constant. I am reassured always by this. No matter what is going on in our lives––all our triumphs and our hardships, too––no matter what we do to each other, or how we disrespect this planet we live upon, still it rocks back and forth, still this motion continues. This shifting of the Earth in its cosmic rocking chair is what creates our seasons. It goes on with or without us, as it has since it began and will until it ends.

Here in the North it is the start of winter by the almanac. By traditional reckoning of time, though, winter began with Halloween and with the Days of the Dead and we find ourselves now at the height of winter, it’s midpoint: This is old Midwinter. This is why, in so many churches and in so many homes this time of year, we sing a beautiful old song called “In the Bleak Midwinter.”

The moment of solstice, for those of you who like precision, is 5:44 AM on December 21 here in Lake Worth, which is Eastern Standard Time. The Eastern Time Zone is pretty large, though, and there are ways of determining the solstice moment––of “sun standing still”––with even greater precision should you wish it. In this house, we take a more roundabout approach. Plus 5:44 in the morning is an admittedly odd time of day to celebrate anything. So we will save our celebration for the night of the 21st, with a ceremony small and simple. We’ve been saving last year’s Christmas tree in a corner of the yard all year. It’s been there since we brought it out after Twelfth Night last year, after the Christmastide festivities came to a close. It’s been drying since then, as the days grew longer through spring and summer, and still as the days grew shorter again through fall and the start of winter. Every now and again throughout this past year, we would be blessed with a whiff of pine, a reminder of Christmas, as we passed by or worked near the old tree. That scent an instant portal to memory. On solstice night, we will use wood from that tree to fuel our midwinter fire. For us, it will be in the copper fire bowl outside in the back yard.

Perhaps you, too, have been following our ways and saving your old Christmas tree each year for this purpose. I like to sit there by the fire and imagine our sparks and woodsmoke rising into the air to meet yours, carrying all our wishes and blessings. But maybe you don’t have your old tree, or perhaps you live in a place where a fire is just not possible. Or maybe you simply don’t have it in you to build a fire. It’s okay. My suggestion always is to simply light a candle to mark the night and to take in its blessings. Light it for just a few minutes and then put it out, if you wish. And if you can’t do that, even if you illuminate a lightbulb somewhere and do it in a spirit of connexion with the mechanical clockwork of our immense planet, that, too, is a wonderful thing. Part of the Convivio approach is to not fret over things but to find ceremony where we can. This is what we mean by “the ceremony of a day,” and what better time to put that into practice than this, the shortest day, the longest, darkest night?

 

Image: “Earth at Night.” Released by NASA December 5, 2012, this photo was assembled from multiple shots taken by the Suomi NPP satellite during April and October 2012. [Public domain] via Wikimedia Commons.

 

The Close & Holy Darkness

Quiet

And once again, it is Christmas. It is the Quiet Time of Christmas as I write this, the small hours past midnight on Christmas Eve, after the last minute rush of the day, after the realization that all will not be done (and the peace that comes along with accepting that), after the unplanned but necessary changing of a kitchen faucet for an old family friend, after the Christmas Eve dinner with family. It was the traditional Italian dinner for this night: seven fishes. Well, six fishes actually… but the bacala made an appearance in two separate dishes, so I think that counts for seven. So many fishes, but this is the tradition, and we do what our parents and grandparents did for this night, for it is what their parents and grandparents did, and so it goes, down the line. Such is the stuff of memory and tradition.

This quiet time is certainly one of the best things about Christmas in my book. The darkness is close and holy, just as Dylan Thomas described it. The lights from the Christmas tree illuminate the room and the lights from the rooftop, this year all blue and green, cast a glow into the windows. I think of all the stories of Christmas and all the magic that happens in them on this enchanted night: the gift bearers, the ghosts of Christmases past, present, and yet to come, angels like Clarence and Dudley from old black and white films, and of course the child born in a barn and laid in straw, kept warm by the breath of an ox and an ass.

Christmas is just beginning. Tomorrow, we awake to Christmas Day, more joyful celebration, to be followed then by the Twelve Days of Christmas, a traditional period of time that stands outside ordinary time, six days in the old year, six in the new. I’ll write about each day for you as it comes, beginning with St. Stephen’s Day on the 26th. The chapters come daily, my gift this yuletide to you. I hope you’ll enjoy them and share them with others. Perhaps the oddest thing about Christmas to me is that corporate America jumps on the Christmas bandwagon sometimes as early as summertime, plying their seasonal wares to us. Christmas music in the stores sometimes in October, products on the shelves come August. They whip us into a Christmas frenzy for months, and yet once Christmas actually begins, they pull the plug on it and we, in turn, are sick of it all. It’s over saturation. This is the real war on Christmas, and a great disrespect to it.

As for the folks in this house, we find the slow approach best, and we find that celebrating this season to its fullest for its full duration of twelve days is best. It keeps us at peace with the season, helps us keep it and keep it well, keeps us passionately in love with it as the years go by. And this we wish to you, as well. Merry Christmas.

Image: The view from where I am sitting this late Christmas Eve hour.