The League of Italian Grandmothers

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With the possible exception of the three years I spent in Alabama, I have always lived in places where it is common to see religious statues in front yards. St. Francis is one you see often. But if we’re talking about a statue of the Blessed Mother or of St. Joseph or St. Anthony, and especially if it’s enclosed in a little enclave, most especially if a spotlight is trained on the statue at night, well, chances are very good that these are my people. We Italians love our saints, and it’s hard to say which is most beloved… but surely a contender for that top spot would be San Antonio, St. Anthony of Padua.

He is a populist, a saint of the people, a saint you can talk to, one who will help you with trivial matters. Finding lost car keys, for instance, or anything at all you’ve misplaced… St. Anthony is there, ready and willing to come to your aid. Case in point: one Labor Day, on a family trip to the beach, when my nephew lost the same gold bracelet off his wrist not once but twice in the surf, my mother retrieved said bracelet both times after praying to St. Anthony. We’re talking needle in a haystack here, folks. Mom swears by St. Anthony’s helpful powers to find lost articles. You may even be familiar with the old children’s rhyme: Tony, Tony come around, something’s lost and must be found. If you’ve ever said that, it’s St. Anthony you’re invoking, and he’s all too happy to assist in your trivial worries. He is an all-around good guy and today, June 13, we celebrate the feast day of San Antonio.

What I remember most about June as a boy was Grandma sitting in a folding upright lawn chair in front of our statue of St. Anthony, which was in the back yard. Grandma always sat in the upright chairs; never a lounge or God forbid a sand chair (she’d never get out of one of those), and in June, her chair was there in front of St. Anthony and in her hands were her little prayer books printed at the orphanage of San Antonio in Italy that she supported and usually a rosary, as well. She sat there for what seemed to me hours. And very often she would have a friend over doing the same thing, a friend just like her, muttering prayers in Italian into the thick summer air.

They were saying their Novena to San Antonio. Novena as in nine. It is a prayer that is said for nine consecutive days, and there are variations of the novena: it could be offered for St. Anthony’s general intercession in a problem in your life or it could be offered for no reason in particular or it could be offered even to help you find something, though one would think after nine days you might move on (the novena does even offer this option as a viable suggestion: St. Anthony, perfect imitator of Jesus, who received from God the special power of restoring lost things, grant that I may find [name the item] which has been lost. At least restore to me peace and tranquility of mind, the loss of which has afflicted me even more than my material loss.)

St. Anthony was born in Lisbon in the late 12th century but spent most of his life in Italy. He was an early Franciscan: cowled brown habit, sandals, tonsured haircut. He is known for many miracles, one of the best known being his preaching to the fishes, who gathered in great numbers to hear St. Anthony speak. He preached to the fishes after trying first preaching to people, but they weren’t much interested at the time, so he took his lesson to a nearby body of water and found a more receptive audience… which then impressed the people enough that they began listening.

The feast day of St. Anthony is a day that, for me, always calls to mind Italian grandmothers, which were the only kind of grandmothers I knew as a boy. Occasionally I would meet a grandmother who wasn’t Italian if I went to a friend’s house after school, and I would be a little taken aback sometimes if their Grandma was tall or spoke good English. And one thing all of these Italian grandmothers seemed to have in common, whether they were my grandmothers or a cousin’s, was this devotion to St. Anthony. There may have been one summer day I recall when Grandma was joined by three or four of them, all saying their novenas, all sitting on folding upright lawn chairs, all muttering in Italian, lips moving just slightly, eyes fixed lovingly upon the statue of St. Anthony in his little enclave in our little back yard.

The image above is of Mom and Grandma with corsages and fancy coats, posing near San Antonio, for my sister’s first communion, and below, that’s Grandma with one of any number of her friends, all Italian, and all of whom were referred to as “Cummara”.

 

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6 thoughts on “The League of Italian Grandmothers

  1. Josee Posen says:

    Interesting comments and observations, John! It occurs to me that the relationship of your grandmother to her saints is somewhat similar to some people’s relationship to their spirit guides– I wonder if anyone ever done any academic work on the similarities between shamanism and saint awareness……

    • John Cutrone says:

      Good question and insight, Josee. I don’t know. But certainly there is a big connection, especially in Italy, between the gods and goddesses of ancient Rome and the saints that followed them. The people were a bit stubborn, apparently, in giving up their pagan ways and very often the characteristics of the old gods were just transferred over to the new saints. We see this time and again in history and it’s quite fascinating. To me, anyway.

  2. Patricia says:

    Beautiful post on this tradition!
    I think that my mother and grandmother belonged to the League of Irish Canadian Mothers and Grandmothers, favourite saints and all. With my mother, the rosary was the preferred prayer but, whenever we lost anything, she would say, “Say a prayer to St. Anthony!” Inevitably, it worked!

  3. Glenn says:

    Another interesting and classic story about Italian grandmothers. My family has come a bit further away from tradition but just last week, during my aggressive beach workout, I had car keys from my pocket. I knew I had my work cut out for me because I was all over the beach both running and doing a variety of other exercises. I asked St. Anthony for help but felt it was a lost cause and a lost car key, key fab and a cab ride home. At first no luck, then I did not see anything in another area I was working out. I finally decided to take my hand over the sand a few inches down and there came a shining key ring. Thank you St. Anthony and thank you john:-)

  4. Joan Arditti says:

    My Mom and grandma were devoted to their patron St.Anthony. Growing up in Queens, I can
    remember the many statues and creiches some in the tiniest of gardens. During the year we
    would go to the small chapel of St Anthony in mid Manhattan. Franciscan Fathers would serve
    out little crackers to the visitors after prayer services. St.Anthony was always called upon to help find lost items, which magically appeared. While touring Italy, I found the Basilica Of St.Anthony and was amazed at the devoted making pilgrimages to honor St. Anthony. Thank you for bringing these memories back on this Fathers Day.

  5. Glenn Reinle says:

    I always love this, John!

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